One reason I think Mr. Hawk and I work together is our shared common beliefs when it comes to religion. Both of us grew up in families where faith and Christianity were an integral part of our upbringing. So having a traditional Christian ceremony in a church was a no-brainer. The difficulty was who would officiate?
Lucky for us, it was more of an overabundance of options that brought on our dilemma. Mr. Hawk's stepfather is a pastor who performed the ceremonies of two of Mr. Hawk's siblings, so he was an option. (Although he did make a joke that his track record wasn't exactly stellar... not that I'm superstitious or anything...) Being members of a church in Richmond, Mr. Hawk and I also have developed a relationship with our church's pastor, and we loved the idea of having him be a part of our wedding too. And then we had our last contender: do you remember when I mentioned
FMIL's sneak attack on Mr. Hawk and how she put the pressure on him to buy a ring? Well at the time she mentioned that she would officiate the ceremony herself since she had become ordained. At the time, we weren't at the place to be thinking about a ceremony, but almost a year later her suggestion had stuck with us.
We decided that it would be incredibly special to have FMIL perform the ceremony, but Mr. Hawk did have some concerns. He was worried that she would never say no just to prevent disappointing him. He was concerned that she wouldn't get to sit back and really enjoy the ceremony. In the end Mr. Hawk did decide to ask her, making it clear that we would not be upset if she'd rather enjoy the ceremony from the pews. Apparently she didn't hesitate to take on the role. (YAY!)
We've talked about the very basics of the ceremony with her but have yet to do any concrete planning. I can't wait for the three of us to sit down and plot out the specifics. Having Mr. Hawk's mom be such a big part of our wedding will definitely be special.
Do you plan on having a friend or family member officiate?
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